Is It Normal to Argue This Much?

Cheryl Harris, Ph.D.

Published on: 10/09/2025

Many couples question whether their frequency of arguments indicates dysfunction or likelihood of separation. However, research suggests that conflict is inevitable in intimate partnerships. The key factor is not frequency, but how conflicts are managed.

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How Can I Bring Up Tough Topics Without Starting a Fight?

Cheryl Harris, Ph.D.

Published on: 28/08/2025

Many couples struggle to discuss sensitive issues without escalating into conflict. The way difficult topics are introduced often determines whether the conversation leads to resolution or defensiveness.

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Why Does My Partner Shut Down During Fights?

Cheryl Harris, Ph.D.

Published on: 27/08/2025

Shutting down in conflict often reflects overwhelm, not lack of caring.

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